Life-Struggles and the ultimate achievement of Peace

    Life has its ups and downs and when the storm of a long and tumultuous period calms down, it is then that peace sets in.You know when I try to understand life and I try to see it from the bird's eye view, then i can see it with all its hues and colors. It is so beautiful, like a rainbow, with its myriad colors.
  Life is indeed like a rainbow, wherein, there are so many different aspects, happiness , sorrow, miseries, success and scores of other things, that if one has look at it as a whole you fail to actually say whether your life was a miserable one or a hugely happy one. I can after the little experience , i have in my life , know for certain, that not a single individual on the face of the earth can say with full confidence , that he has never tasted sorrow, or failure in his life and if he says , then he is lying point blank!
   What I feel very frankly is that life has a beautiful  way of balancing out sorrows and joys, it tells you that come on now, you have had enough of joys now here comes a lot of sorrows and vice versa. It is a simple equation, if you don't know what sorrow is, then how will you value the joys that come after it. In the same way if you have too much of joy then life becomes boring and monotonous! Yes , there is no thrill in living a life with no challenges. One should struggle and know what it is to be sorrowful, as when you come out of the struggle and face the joys of your success , it is only you realize the value of what you were missing out.
   This is what is Life, in the real sense. During the time of miseries , you sometimes feel that there is no end to it , but when you come out of it victorious, you realize that you were raving and ranting for no reason, it was so simple and clear that ultimately you would come out of the rut very easily, only that you had to realize where you were wrong.
   As time has passed I have realized one thing very clearly and that is that any person can turn around his life according to his own wish, by only thinking in a logical way and taking things as they come and not get worked up or bogged down by a hell lot of troubles. Troubles have their way of throwing you off the hook, they literally block you from the world and you feel so surrounded by miseries that you feel , that now there is no way out. But only a sensible man who has wisdom and intelligence by his side , is able to veer away from any mental tension and he calmly faces the storm of troubles and snaps out of it the moment he gets a slight hold of things.
    After all this peace sets in and that is the ultimate prize anyone gets , after a long hiatus. One thing I want to assert is that this peace after a long struggle is only felt by those people who can listen to their souls and their inner voice, not by people who are restless and constantly wanting more in life.
   Peace, serenity, mental calm are the jewels which are valued by spiritual people and those people who are ordinary and they live their lives, just because they have to live it, don't experience this feeling of peace, as they don't know what is spiritual peace. Now, you will ask me why. The reason why most of the people who live ordinary lives don't feel the peace after a long struggle, as for them struggles are so much a part of their lives, that a small hiatus, only makes them more alert and they start preparing for their next struggle, so they don't get time to feel the peace and the calm.
   Life is like that , it is like the ocean, where the ocean is really calm before a storm and after a storm, but having storms is a normal aspect of life, without storms, the sea would not be the sea, in the same way without struggles, life would not be meaningful.henceforth when a person goes through struggles, he should not lose his calm and bear with the sorrows and wait for the struggle to finish and then enjoy the calm. This trend is more like the waves in the sea, which rise and strike the shores and then fall back, as it is their intrinsic nature. In the same way life huffs and puffs and gives you troubles and once they are over , you sit back and relax.
   Those who realize this general pattern of life, live a calm and peaceful life as they know that troubles are part and parcel of life. But, those who remain confused spiritually have a tough time managing life along with its troubles.
   In the end I would like to say that one should go with the flow and live life to the fullest. Be happy when you are joyous and face sorrows with a brave face and certainly you will come out victorious , if you don't lose heart. So, sit back and let life lead you to the way that it wants you to follow, rather you getting baffled by its normal ways.  

Ponderings

  Life is so funny and strange. It shows all its colors in a short time and though at times you feel at peace with yourself, at other times you feel so agitated and upset with life, that you feel that it is meaningless for you.
   Lately the feeling of peace has been overpowering my mind and it has been soothing my battered soul. I was left bereaved and shattered when I lost two very dear people in my life. Slowly with great will power, grit and determination, I gathered my emotions  and tried to get on with my life.
   When a lot of things happen especially with me,at that moment of time , or that duration of time, I go with the flow and react as the way it is required of me.But, when that phase of struggle or series of events passes , then I sit and ponder , as to what were my actions and how I could I could have reacted better. That is my nature, my intrinsic nature , where I ponder and evaluate my actions and reactions.
    Life is an amalgam of emotions and when there is a whirlwind of different emotions, then you are shaken, shaken from within, but then life has its own way of mending its ways and it soothes you and relaxes. What should a person do, when things are not shaping up the way you want them to shape up,when you are not able to handle yourself mentally and emotionally? What should You do when you are utterly confused and in a fix?
   You should maintain your sanctity and try to handle things in a balanced manner and set things right.Life is a mixed bag of good and bad things, where on the one side you are feeling at peace with your soul and on the other side there is something niggling you, to such an extent, that it can disturb your soul as well.
  These are the ways of Life and the machinations of God, he sees me in suffering and mends all my wounds and things inch back to normal.When I think of what life has given me. the joys and the sorrows, then I don't think that there are more sorrows as ,he has blessed me with a lovely family and understanding parents and a host of other things, of which I am not even aware.In this scenario the profundity of the sorrows I face becomes very minuscule.
   Being a hard core optimist my mind and emotions help me fathom the intensity of the sorrows and I don't think I should wallow in them and I should ignore them and move on with the good things of my life. Ultimately, the optimist in me wins and I move on happily, like as though nothing has happened. I admire this incomparable ability of mine wherein , I move on despite facing very difficult challenges in my Life. Sometimes I feel I am blessed by the lord Almighty and I strongly feel he keeps his affectionate hand on me at all times, that is why the regular challenges and sorrows I face are overcome by me in no time and I move with a cheerful demeanor, as times passes.
   So, these were my pondering at the present stage of my life. All in all, I am satisfied and happy as I have, as mentioned above moved on and I am in a happy space, where there is contentment and joy.
Life is and always will be worthwhile, as no matter what happens, there is hope for a better tomorrow always.

The Outrightly Deplorable Pakistani Man

    

  I write this blog in no personal offense towards Pakistani men in particular, but yes through time and my own close scrutiny and utter displeasure, I have developed a strong dislike for them.None of my comments and observations, that I am going to reveal here, are not directed towards them, but this is a mere observation and as I am so full of hatred towards them, I would like to express it here on this public platform.

Being an onlooker, I am giving my opinions about them, only on a superficial basis and as I do have certain modes of exposure to them, though indirectly, through television serials and other media related reports I have a rough idea of the basic pakistani man.

I have been not only shocked, but sadly full of dismay, to see the deplorable condition of nearly all pakistani women, at the hands of their counterparts.I have seen innumerable cases wherein the man has an inflated ego and he is totally remorseless towards his woman.

There are many ways in how he downplays every aspect of his woman. First of all the basic mentality of his, is so full of the notion, that he is all powerful and he can do whatever he wants and the best part is that the entire male as well as female community supports him in whatever he does.Like, when a muslim man marries , then he can do so four times and by doing so, he has the liberty of getting another wife even without the consent of his first wife!

This age old concept of marrying four times, is so out dated that, now it seems very irrelevant.This concept was put in place centuries ago, when there was abject poverty and so a man was visualized as financial security. Henceforth, he married forlorn poor girls, with the purpose of giving them financial support and care in dire necessity.If this viewpoint is considered, then it is justified, but now when things have changed and the country has transformed economically, then this concept also should have been abandoned long ago. But, the fundamentalist muslim man has refused to let go of his past and has hopelessly clutched tight to his past habits,

In this entire scenario, the poor pakistani woman has suffered invariably at the hands of her man.Now he can divorce her whenever he wants, at this own free will, for any petty reason, or for no reason, or even if he doesn't divorce he brings in two or three wives, who are forced to stay under one roof.All this down-trodden behavior evokes a strong sense of insecurity in all pakistani women and they constantly live in the fear that their men can either divorce them, or they can get another wife anytime.

The above fact is just one facet of the all round exploitation of the women. There the woman has to face the physical abuse and violent beatings also of their men at the drop of a hat. It is such irony that despite being educated and highly qualified and of course extremely beautiful, they live in the constant fear, that any day their husbands can, either divorce them, remarry or beat hem black and blue.

The dismal scenario is not the result of a day or few years down the line. It the result of generations of continuous and constant batter of the female sex on a deliberate basis. A typical pakistani man is brought up looking at his father behaving in a certain manner and now no matter how he is educated , he conscuously or unconsciously follows his footsteps and as a result batters the ego of his wife and tries to have ultimate control on whatever she does.

The sad part is, that these women are so caught up in the shackles of their men and the orthodox society, that they are not able to find a way put. All those women who look for liberation are considered rebels and they are not looked up with respect and if they try to portray themselves liberated and outgoing, then they are labelled as characterless and vile women.

I am not saying that all pakistani men are bad and they don't have iota of goodness in them. There might be very decent and respectful men also over there, but the kind of impression you get from the serials and the media reports, you feel that it is so disgusting to be around them.Women do have a tough time with them and if they want equality and recognition in the society then they have to make conscious efforts to elevate their positions and make themselves worth giving the required respect and love.

Women in any society are indispensable and if they don't get their place in the family and they are constantly exploited and pulled down then the future of that society is very bleak.Women should be brave to fight it out and speak up for themselves and face all the atrocities of her man with a heart of steel and not accept bad behavior at any cost.

Woman power is the strength of any nation and if that is lacking, then the overall development of the country is stunted and growth becomes very slow and full of obstacles.I know it is not easy for women to liberate themselves of the age old shackles of their society, but if a large number of women come together and refuse to bear with the atrocities of the men, then it is possible that things will change, in the beginning a little slowly, but as time passes, things should be better, as the future generation is at stake and their future is the prime responsibility of the present generation.

So it is my humble request to all pakistani women to wake and fight it out and I am sure they will find equality and liberation in the coming future, they only require determination and strong will power to achieve what they want, from the strongly fundamentalist society.They have to be patient and understand, that it is not easy and they will face a lot of resistance at the hands of their male counterparts. But, if they are insistent then things will change for the better, for them and for everyone around them.